[CONTINUED FROM YESTERDAY]You’ll recall that this is a fun exercise which gives you a way to get over shyness fast, and you started it by going someplace where there are a *lot* of women. Step two was you went walking up the hall, and as you passed various women, you say something to them (anything!), but then (important step three) you keep walking past!
Step Four: When you get to the far end of the beach or the hallway or the street fair, or whatever the place is where there are lots of women, now you turn around and you come back.
Step Five: Now you’ll again encounter the woman. This time, on your way back, you again say something to her. But the difference is that this time you strike up a conversation, and in due time you ask her for a coffee date or whatever the next step is. If she won’t talk with you, head on back to the next one. But the surprising is that she will nearly always talk with you … on your return trip.
Here’s How it Works
Why would this work? Why will she almost always talk with you when you return?
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It’s because when you return she thinks she knows you! You’ve moved yourself into the class of guy who she’s talking with for the second time. You see, women can be protective and cautious the first time they meet somebody, but they don’t usually have a habit of being so cautious the second time they’re chatting with somebody, and you’ve just moved yourself into that category.
Getting Beyond Shyness
The second wonderful thing about this technique is that it helps you get beyond shyness. If you’ve ever felt tongue-tied in the past, this method is great. You see, there’s so little to lose, since you’re walking away. And if you say something so dumb that the sky should fall … who cares? And if you’ve spoken to a half-dozen women, you can blow it with five and still meet somebody, and that ain’t bad!
Using this particular method in the hallway at San Francisco State, on that particular morning, I met Barbara A., the writer, but that’s another story.
